Online dating vs regular dating
“Although I felt a bit of a loser, I joined an online dating agency.I filled forms about my interests, my opinions and my personal goals – which was having a family – something I’d been too frightened to mention to my exes in the early days for fear of scaring them off.You can say “I don’t do casual” without signaling “I want you to be my boyfriend.”There is enormous power in the phrase “I like you.” When you like someone, say so. They’re either in the relationship market or the casual sex market.And no one wants to waste time, so the faster you can sort yourself into the relationship market, the less frustration you’ll experience.Just today, nine million Britons will log on looking for love.The result is that, rather than being someone that defies all calculation, love is now big business worth an annual billion internationally and growing at 70 per cent a year – with high-tech venture capitalists, psychologists and software engineers reaping vast rewards.But since 1995 when the first online dating site was launched, the tables have completely turned.Cash-rich, time-poor professionals who already do everything from shop to socialise online, now see a search engine as the obvious gateway to love.
But can something as nebulous as everlasting love really be found via a computer chip?
Academics, meanwhile, are fascinated by the data being gathered — and largely kept secret — by the dating industry.
“We’d love to get hold of more of it, but they’re not keen to share though we’re in discussion with a few of them,” says Robin Dunbar, professor of evolutionary psychology at Oxford University and author of The Science of Love and Betrayal.
This is largely due to the fact that women are outperforming men educationally and professionally.
So the college-educated guy has options – and that is a strong incentive to delay commitment.