Fear of intimacy and dating
The Fear of Intimacy Scale (FIS) is a 35-item self-evaluation that can determine the level of fear of intimacy that an individual has.This test can determine this level even if the individual is not in a relationship.Before I get into the reasons why they're so afraid, let me first address the question of whether men are more afraid of relationships than women.The debate about whether men and women are extremely similar or extremely different doesn't seem to go away, and it's largely because we have little way of proving much within the psychological arena.The fear of intimacy is the fear of being emotionally and/or physically close to another individual.
The term can also refer to a scale on a psychometric test, or a type of adult in attachment theory psychology.
Who knows, maybe one day we'll learn so much about the brain that we can definitively answer the question. Measuring fear of intimacy among men and women in a research sense is tricky, but one study (Thelen et al., 2000) attempted it and found that men scored higher on a Fear-of-Intimacy Scale.
Odds are, however, that the day may never come: Perhaps the social influences shaping males and females are so powerful that it's primarily the social part, and not the biological part, that makes men and women who are they are. To women who have known men terrified of relationships, this research will come as no surprise.
In order to meet the criteria for Intimacy Anxiety Disorder, either high anxiety in partner-social interactions and/or high anxiety in sexual interactions are present.
Generalization caveat: Not all men are afraid of relationships, but many men are terrified of them.