Dating your ex husband
The worst reason is because one or both of you are lonely and there’s no-one else available.
Or you’re jealous because you can’t bear the thought of them being with anyone else.
Civilised grown-ups allow their partners contact with people from their past, don’t they?
Indeed, only yesterday Joanna Lumley was photographed enjoying an al fresco meal with her ex-husband, the comedy writer Jeremy Lloyd.
Try to get a realistic picture of what things were like between you and your ex rather than an idealised romantic image.
Everything in a meal à deux conspires to stir the senses: the shape of the bread roll, the velvety warmth of the soup, the tablecloth that can hide a multitude of sins – like the game of footsie going on.If you have been through it once you are unlikely to want to repeat the experience, especially with the same person, so what do you do if your ex comes back keen to give it another go?Emotions can be overwhelming and, in the case of an ex, you’re likely to have a whole mix going on because you’ll have happy memories of when you were first together, sadder memories of the break-up and everything in between.When Lucifer wanted to tempt Eve into betraying God and Adam, he didn’t play a melodious reed pipe or whisper a beautifully crafted compliment. Scarlet, succulent, smooth: the treacherous fruit appealed to every sense.No wonder poor old Eve lost her head – few can resist the satisfaction of good food. “Sharing food confers instant intimacy,” says psychotherapist Fergus Greer.